Believing a Griever: A Poem
Losing someone they love is heartbreaking and often feels like an endless struggle. Just because they may seem okay doesn’t mean they are. Grief doesn’t follow a timeline, and it’s important to understand that they will never be the same person they were before their loss. Please believe them and be there for them.
Grief Deserves Validation Without Comparison
In my journey through loss, I've learned about “internal comparative suffering.” It’s a way I cope, comparing past grief to present challenges. This method helps me find perspective, but I’ve realized that it’s crucial not to impose my comparisons on others. Everyone’s pain is personal and unique.
On a Scale of 0-10: Grieving Deeply
Have you ever been asked to rate your pain on a scale of 0-10? I’ve realized that we can apply this same idea to our emotional pain and grief. Every person's experience is different, and understanding that is key. Let’s talk about how recognizing this can help us support each other through our losses.
5 Things I Would Never Do: The Griever’s Edition
I never thought I'd be a micro-influencer on death, but here I am. My recent Twitter post caught people’s attention, sparking conversations about grief that we often avoid. It’s crucial to support friends through loss, offering understanding, presence, and patience, even when it’s uncomfortable.
Deconstructing the saying "time heals"
Losing my brother David in 1983 was a profound loss that changed my life. I always thought “time heals,” but I've learned that grief doesn’t disappear. It evolves. My love and memories of David remain, a constant in a world that keeps moving. Grieving is a testament to love, not a sign of weakness.